We hear a lot about the Me Mentality that so many people have; people who are so fixated on themselves that nothing else and nobody else matters. To them, it’s all about ”me.” What’s good for me, what makes me happy, what’s in it for me?
As frustrating as it is dealing with people like that, it’s even worse dealing with the “Not Me” mentality that is just as pervasive in our society. You can always tell a person or a business cursed with the Not Me mentality, because no matter what happens, it’s never their fault.
Case in point is the California woman who met a man on Match.com, and is now suing the online dating company, alleging that on their second date, the man sexually assaulted her in her home. Last year, the man entered a not guilty plea to two felony sexual assault counts in Los Angeles Superior Court, and is awaiting trial. In this case, his attorney says the sex was consensual. In her lawsuit, the woman says that Match.com should have screened its clients to weed out those with criminal pasts.
My question is, if she had met the man in a bar, or at church, would she now be suing those institutions? She met a man online, had one date with him, and then accepted a second date, and invited him into her home. Doesn’t she have to accept some responsibility for her decisions?
Another example is an incident that happened a few weeks ago with a friend of mine, who was parked next to me at a fairgrounds RV park in Tucson. An outside company contracted for grounds maintenance was trimming the hedges behind our motorhomes, and the next day my friend discovered a deep gouge in the rear of his motorhome, right where the crew was working.
When my friend contacted the fairgrounds staff to report the incident, the immediate reaction from their guy and the representative from the outside work crew was “Are you blaming us? No, it couldn’t have been us!”
It didn’t matter that nobody else had been working around the back of his RV with power equipment, and that nobody else was in the area between our two coaches, and that the damage was not there the day before. The Not Me mentality had kicked in, and nobody wanted to even consider the fact that they were to blame.
It’s everywhere. We see it in people, we see it in businesses, and we see it in our elected officials. Nobody is ever willing to stand up on their hind legs and take any personal responsibility.
A few years ago on a talk show, comedian Dennis Miller said “You know, just once I want to see somebody talking to a news reporter say “I didn’t grow up in a broken home, I wasn’t molested or abused a a kid, my mom was great, my dad was great, I’m just a loser.””
Yeah, I’d like to see that too, but it’s never going to happen. Because whatever goes wrong in life, no matter who goofs up, no matter what mistakes are made, it must be somebody else’s fault. It could never be mine. Me? No, not me!