After reading my A House Divided blog last week, and my comments about same sex marriages, a longtime blog reader sent me an e-mail saying that she truly believes that allowing same sex marriages makes a mockery of the institution of marriage.
“My parents were married for 63 years,” she wrote. “My paternal grandparents were together over 50 years before death took them apart. My maternal grandparents had 60 years of a loving, stable marriage. My husband and I celebrated our 35th anniversary this year. Nick, how can you compare those kind of relationships with what gay people call love (but is really just a sick form of lust)? Marriage is a sacred thing between a man and a woman, not a fad or a political tool to win votes.”
What makes a relationship between a man and a woman automatically more “sacred” than that between a same sex couple? While I cannot claim to know any gay couples who have been together as long as the marriages this lady wrote about, I do know two or three gay couples who have been together for many years. They are just as committed to each other as any straight couple I know, and more so than many.
Now let’s compare television personality Kim Kardashian’s divorce announcement from NBA player Kris Humphries after only 72 days of marriage. Yeah, that’s real sacred isn’t it? It has to be – after all, they’re straight!
We live in a disposable world. We have disposable diapers, disposable plates, and, it seems, disposable marriages. This brings to mind a young couple who came into my weekly newspaper back in Arizona to put in a wedding announcement. I congratulated them on their upcoming nuptials, and told them that I wished them a lifetime of love and happiness. The young lady thanked me, then said “We decided we’d give it a year and see what happens. We figure if it doesn’t work out, we can always get a divorce.”
How can a marriage “work out” if you go into it with that kind of attitude?
I’ve always heard that marriage is a 50-50 proposition, but that’s not true. I believe a successful marriage is a 100 -100 thing. Both parties have to give 100% of themselves to the other and to the relationship. How can something succeed if you only put half of yourself into it?
And that includes gay and straight couples. Anything less is what makes a mockery of marriage.
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